Thursday, November 25, 2010

Thanksgiving and The Empty Seat

Today on this Thanksgiving, the day we all count our blessings and give thanks for what we have, we will do that, but here we will also mourn for the one missing.......the empty seat.

Everyone has their traditions, and around here on Thanksgiving it is our custom that when we sit down to eat our Thanksgiving meal, we go around the table, each of us speaking from our hearts of what we are particularly thankful for. Zoey usually likes to go first. We each mention the little blessings bestowed upon us that year, and we all give special thanks that there are no empty seats at our table, as we knew there easily could be, and we always knew many families were missing loved ones. We never took it for granted. We also would all get choked up when talking about being grateful, as again we knew that eventually there would be the dreaded empty seat, as my mom was getting up in age, and already on borrowed time w/ her kidney transplant. No one had to say it, but we all knew who we were most thankful for being there.

This year will be so different, this year we have "the empty seat"......the one we all knew in our heart of hearts would be the first. My Mother's seat will be empty. It's all so new, and still so raw, and our hearts are still hurting so badly. I'm sure there will be many tears at our table today. We lost her just one month ago after a lengthy stay in the hospital.

My Mom was a beautiful woman, who I can honestly say was never ever was in a bad mood, ever! She was always so perky, and she had not one enemy. Everyone loved her, and she had such a way of making everyone feel so special. Her presense was like sunshine, and today, this first holiday without her will seem so dull and the void will be huge without her. I know she wouldn't want us to be sad.

It is still hard to believe our Matriarch is gone.

My mom loved Zoey and Zoey loved her.

We miss you dearest lady. There is no one like you. With your kind, gentle, generous and ever caring spirit, you made this world a better place, and you are sorely missed.

We will miss your beautiful smiling face today.

On this Thanksgiving day......we must be thankful, that God let us have you for so long and gave us a chance to say goodbye to you.
Wishing everyone a safe and Happy Thanksgiving, and thinking of those with the Empty seats.


bayrayschild said...

I can relate to the "Empty Seat" Patty and I am sending you and your family loving blessings.

Big Hugs my sister,

Prim and Proper Folks said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss Patty. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Wishing you the blessing of peace this holiday season...Susan

Carol Roll said...

Your words say so much about your mom and about you too Patty. I think your family is very lucky to have you too.

Lola said...

I'm sure the empty seat was unbearable....I'm so sorry that you and your family did not have your mother in that seat this year. The holidays are always harder when there's someone that we love so dearly not there to celebrate with us. At times, even the good memories are not enough to fill that void. God knows you how feel and he cries with you....His heart is hurting, too. May your journey to "this too shall pass" be filled with God's promises, strength and peace. The gift of having your mother and all her goodness did not go away, it changed...she is waiting for you in a different place and it won't be long before you are reunited with her...what a glorious day that will be.

Roberta said...
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Roberta said...

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I hope all your family's good memories of your time together will bless you and help you get through these days and this holiday season.

Cookie said...

I loved reading your post and seeing your pics, sweet friend.
I do believe that sharing with those that love you is a balm that helps us deal with our grief. My heart is with you - I understand totally.


2stitchin said...

Patty, This was a wonderful tribute to your Mom. It helps us so much when we do things like this in remembrance, it helps us to heal but we never forget. Love, Lynn

Daughternature Primitive Folk Art said...

Patty - Just a note to say I have been thinking of you. - BJ